Patrick Covington is saying it is crazy friday anything goes, is it possible to de-gay someone? And why would you want to? All in fun today we going to make the day roll. Make sure you peep out last question also.
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Chiquita Spears at 10:15am June 12
Not possible u are attracted to what u are attracted to I dont care how good a chick suck his D**K or how good a chick thank her P***Y is if that dude likes dudes then that's where he gonna go back too...did I clarify that enough 4 ya Pat...LOL
Adrianne Owens at 10:17am June 12
I guess..had a lil'cuz who was and now she like dudes..go figure...some old ass dude laid it on her I guess and she knew what she was missing with the mandingo!
Chenear Stevenson at 10:17am June 12
Quita, you just raw today...I guess its the weekend...lol
James Davis at 10:18am June 12
DE-GAY.. hmmmm...... dude you off the chain!!! lol.. DE-GAY.. WTF!!!
Chiquita Spears at 10:21am June 12
LOL..@ Chenear girl I am just in a good mood today I guess because it's Friday but I feel great...
Lakisha Jeffries at 10:21am June 12
Its not possible to degay someone if they were truly gay to begin with. And no matter what if they are attracted to the same sex they always will be. And
Lakisha Jeffries at 10:21am June 12
some people see it as a challenge which is a turn on for some which is why they would attempt to "degay" them
Patrick Covington at 10:32am June 12
People are going to be afraid to touch this..
Chiquita Spears at 10:32am June 12
@Pat of course they are but lke you always say we are all grown who are we to judge you based upon your opinions...
Jamie Perry at 10:43am June 12
If they want to be gay, hell let them be! Accept them as they are even if they with the shit!
MsTalja' SavyPhrase Walker at 10:53am June 12
I agree ... WE grown. I do not believe anyone can "wash-up" and live a heterosexual lifestyle. Too many ppl live downlow lifestyles an have the concerns of not being accepted.
Miss Rowland at 8:21pm June 12
YOU HIT THE HAMMER ON THE NAIL CHIQUITA...
Friday, June 19, 2009
How do you think Obama doing
Patrick Covington A SERIOUS QUESTION FOR EVERYONE TO ANSWER.. HOW DO YOU THINK OBAMA IS DOING FOR US RIGHT NOW? EXPLAIN YOUR ANSWER PLEASE.. LUNCH TIME QUESTION..
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Paula Hatton at 12:03pm June 12
You are talking about undoing 8 years worth of BS. I will reserve my judgement for a couple of years to see the effects of the changes.
Patrick Covington at 12:07pm June 12
I guess ppl are afraid to talk about how they feel lol. thank Paula for hitting first everyone has a view point.
Paul PrinceofMemphis Taylor at 12:11pm June 12
Put it like this,YES we made history by electing a black president...Yet this stimulus thing he proposed AINT all its cracked up to be..The jobs that were created only took care of 9% of the people......YAY he fixed america!!!not...What if u fall into the 81% of unemployed?....Well that means the problem aint fixed....And as Paula said 8 yrs of crap to fix....Besides what everyone doesnt know is that the president is run by those over him...He is just a puppet with a LITTLE extra power..[a puppet with batteries so it can talk ]...thats all...but yes he is GREAT!!...*sarcasm*
Sherelle Lynn Exom at 12:15pm June 12
As for right now, with all these stimulus packages that are being pumped n2 the economy he's definitely trying to get people out of this rut. I really don't believe we will be able to see anything drastic until his second term....praying that he gets a second term. He can't go str8 n and work a miracle. Like Paula said...he's trying to undo 8 years worth of BS.
Patrick Covington at 12:17pm June 12
I don't have anything against a race or culture! But I see a lot of Jews keep complaining about things Obama does which has me wondering what power do they have that we don't know about? It is going to take long than 8yrs to fix this..
Patrick Covington at 12:20pm June 12
The money that is being pumped is the new Amero currency. We have to be careful we don't want the government running everything because that becomes dangerous.
Carmen Davis at 12:24pm June 12
Pat, you should know by now, most people don’t like talking about real issues opposed to things that really has no relevance or impact in our lives…we are a culture who thrives off of drama; drama doesn’t consist of reality when you think about it…anyway, I think he hasn’t been given enough time to be “evaluated” NOT JUDGED (cause that is not for us to do). He is still trying to build his staff and build relationships with his staff, he is still try to assess the problems that America is facing before he dives in trying to make drastic improvements….he can’t fix something to make it work effectively without the proper tools and he also needs to be certain those tools can actually be applied.
Carmen Davis at 12:24pm June 12
We want the current economic situation to change immediately but what we fail to realize is that we will NOT see any changes for another two – three years because just like Paul said, he is not the one in total control he doesn’t have all the power…but I believe in him, I believe in what he stands for and I believe that we will recover and that alone is enough for me sit back and wait BUT in the meantime, Im doing what is required of me as a citizen of the US (well technically, Im not a citizen, but legal resident…lol...)
Sherelle Lynn Exom at 12:26pm June 12
And there are more stimulus packages going around then just one big one. Each state was given money that was divided between cities who issued it out to the mayors for them to determine where the money was needed. Let's ask our mayor where our cut went....there was a package given to the elderly as well, and i sure as hell got my second refund...DHS got a package to help take care of these kids that these daddies don't want to help feed or get insurance for. Its coming but the people have got to be patient. Well actually u don't have an option. The man ain't Jesus so don't expect him to feed the world with 2 fish and 5 loaves of bread
Patrick Covington at 12:40pm June 12
I agree carmen we have to get serious about things
Kelia Bell at 12:56pm June 12
The man hasn't even been in office for 6 months yet. Everyone is so focused on what he has and has not accomplished. I am sorry but 6 months isn't even enough time to build a corporation let alone rebuild an entire nation. We, along w/ Rush Limbaugh, will have to sit by and wait and see. Just like we all sat by for 8 years and watch this nation become a shell of its' former self.
Dana East at 12:58pm June 12
I think the biggest problem n America now is the fact that we have gone so long w/o a Pres that THINKS b4 he reacts that we r VERY impatient with getting results. Bush was impulsive n did things bcuz he wanted to. Our Pres is a thinker n intellectual so he has a process b4 his action. We MUST b patient n trust the GOD's Will will b done. Obama won bcuz it was ordained not jus cuz we got out 2 the polls. It will all work out n Divine Order!
Patrick Covington at 12:59pm June 12
Kelia I love that anger! They saw bush fucking it up and they didn't stop him so I guess we going to have to wait to repair what has been torn down
Kelia Bell at 2:22pm June 12
Not angry so much as aggravated. Every move he makes is being scrutinized. The man can't even take his wife on a date w/o it coming back to what he has or has not done. (And don't get me started on that, I think they just can't stand to see black love!!) But I digress... Where was all this scrutiny when the hole was being dug? But now you wanna scrutinize what tools he uses to dig us out...
Patrick Covington at 2:38pm June 12
I agree.. That man kicked his feet up on the desk and the Jews got mad.. That is not even their culture and they were mad.. Like shut that shit up let the man be who he is Black! We don't do what they do we have our own walk.
Kelia Bell at 2:45pm June 12
and all that matters is the end result!
Miss Rowland at 8:08pm June 12
I AGREE...TOTALLY!!!
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Paula Hatton at 12:03pm June 12
You are talking about undoing 8 years worth of BS. I will reserve my judgement for a couple of years to see the effects of the changes.
Patrick Covington at 12:07pm June 12
I guess ppl are afraid to talk about how they feel lol. thank Paula for hitting first everyone has a view point.
Paul PrinceofMemphis Taylor at 12:11pm June 12
Put it like this,YES we made history by electing a black president...Yet this stimulus thing he proposed AINT all its cracked up to be..The jobs that were created only took care of 9% of the people......YAY he fixed america!!!not...What if u fall into the 81% of unemployed?....Well that means the problem aint fixed....And as Paula said 8 yrs of crap to fix....Besides what everyone doesnt know is that the president is run by those over him...He is just a puppet with a LITTLE extra power..[a puppet with batteries so it can talk ]...thats all...but yes he is GREAT!!...*sarcasm*
Sherelle Lynn Exom at 12:15pm June 12
As for right now, with all these stimulus packages that are being pumped n2 the economy he's definitely trying to get people out of this rut. I really don't believe we will be able to see anything drastic until his second term....praying that he gets a second term. He can't go str8 n and work a miracle. Like Paula said...he's trying to undo 8 years worth of BS.
Patrick Covington at 12:17pm June 12
I don't have anything against a race or culture! But I see a lot of Jews keep complaining about things Obama does which has me wondering what power do they have that we don't know about? It is going to take long than 8yrs to fix this..
Patrick Covington at 12:20pm June 12
The money that is being pumped is the new Amero currency. We have to be careful we don't want the government running everything because that becomes dangerous.
Carmen Davis at 12:24pm June 12
Pat, you should know by now, most people don’t like talking about real issues opposed to things that really has no relevance or impact in our lives…we are a culture who thrives off of drama; drama doesn’t consist of reality when you think about it…anyway, I think he hasn’t been given enough time to be “evaluated” NOT JUDGED (cause that is not for us to do). He is still trying to build his staff and build relationships with his staff, he is still try to assess the problems that America is facing before he dives in trying to make drastic improvements….he can’t fix something to make it work effectively without the proper tools and he also needs to be certain those tools can actually be applied.
Carmen Davis at 12:24pm June 12
We want the current economic situation to change immediately but what we fail to realize is that we will NOT see any changes for another two – three years because just like Paul said, he is not the one in total control he doesn’t have all the power…but I believe in him, I believe in what he stands for and I believe that we will recover and that alone is enough for me sit back and wait BUT in the meantime, Im doing what is required of me as a citizen of the US (well technically, Im not a citizen, but legal resident…lol...)
Sherelle Lynn Exom at 12:26pm June 12
And there are more stimulus packages going around then just one big one. Each state was given money that was divided between cities who issued it out to the mayors for them to determine where the money was needed. Let's ask our mayor where our cut went....there was a package given to the elderly as well, and i sure as hell got my second refund...DHS got a package to help take care of these kids that these daddies don't want to help feed or get insurance for. Its coming but the people have got to be patient. Well actually u don't have an option. The man ain't Jesus so don't expect him to feed the world with 2 fish and 5 loaves of bread
Patrick Covington at 12:40pm June 12
I agree carmen we have to get serious about things
Kelia Bell at 12:56pm June 12
The man hasn't even been in office for 6 months yet. Everyone is so focused on what he has and has not accomplished. I am sorry but 6 months isn't even enough time to build a corporation let alone rebuild an entire nation. We, along w/ Rush Limbaugh, will have to sit by and wait and see. Just like we all sat by for 8 years and watch this nation become a shell of its' former self.
Dana East at 12:58pm June 12
I think the biggest problem n America now is the fact that we have gone so long w/o a Pres that THINKS b4 he reacts that we r VERY impatient with getting results. Bush was impulsive n did things bcuz he wanted to. Our Pres is a thinker n intellectual so he has a process b4 his action. We MUST b patient n trust the GOD's Will will b done. Obama won bcuz it was ordained not jus cuz we got out 2 the polls. It will all work out n Divine Order!
Patrick Covington at 12:59pm June 12
Kelia I love that anger! They saw bush fucking it up and they didn't stop him so I guess we going to have to wait to repair what has been torn down
Kelia Bell at 2:22pm June 12
Not angry so much as aggravated. Every move he makes is being scrutinized. The man can't even take his wife on a date w/o it coming back to what he has or has not done. (And don't get me started on that, I think they just can't stand to see black love!!) But I digress... Where was all this scrutiny when the hole was being dug? But now you wanna scrutinize what tools he uses to dig us out...
Patrick Covington at 2:38pm June 12
I agree.. That man kicked his feet up on the desk and the Jews got mad.. That is not even their culture and they were mad.. Like shut that shit up let the man be who he is Black! We don't do what they do we have our own walk.
Kelia Bell at 2:45pm June 12
and all that matters is the end result!
Miss Rowland at 8:08pm June 12
I AGREE...TOTALLY!!!
Love After Sex
Patrick Covington Ladies have you ever had a dude tell you that he loves you after getting some of the goodies? How you handle that! Make sure you peep out other questions also. We having fun today!
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Nakiyah PrimaDona Love at 2:17pm June 12
he just loves the nookie is what he really sayin...hmm!
Adrianne Owens at 2:19pm June 12
Hell tah the yeah and it was right after the first time laying in bed. Go figure.
Yvette Lyles at 2:20pm June 12
thats all, some dudes are full of shit, say anything to keep getting your goodies along with others.
Lakisha Jeffries at 2:20pm June 12
Yea lol it was too funny. He started cryin and talkin about how he could see him self wit me and he wanted me to meet hs family the next day. That scared
Lakisha Jeffries at 2:20pm June 12
me for a long time
Chiquita Spears at 2:20pm June 12
Hell yea and Im like hell naw nigga get up and get yo shit I know it was good but u dont love me u love what I can do to u....
Patrick Covington at 2:25pm June 12
Quita you be putting dudes in handcuffs and beating the hell of them..
Chiquita Spears at 2:27pm June 12
LOL...no I dont I dont do the beatings...
Patrick Covington at 2:31pm June 12
you that chick that know a man getting his and know we super sensitive and keep going have toes curled up and losing oxygen to the brain lol..
Jade Fox at 2:41pm June 12
I have had Dudes asking me to have their BABIES and Im not lying...Maybe it wasnt the sex..maybe its because I dont have any kids and I would be a pretty Baby Maker or something lol, and to answer yesterdays question, Nope I'm not attracted tothose types anymore lol
Carmen Renee at 2:43pm June 12
i simpy say i know
Kelia Bell at 2:47pm June 12
I respond, "That's good b/c I love me too!" LOL
Chenear Stevenson at 2:51pm June 12
@quita...lol
Brandy Greene at 3:01pm June 12
Aww boy, u don't love me u just love my doggie style...
Vickie Groves at 4:00pm June 12
Lmfao!!! Yep! And I was very nice to him the rest of the time we spent together but I did the disappearing act on his ass. Blowin up my phone, No returned calls... No texts back... Eventually, I had to change my number. So now, he damn near gonna have to tell me that AND convince me that it's true AND make sure it's a mutual thing beforehand if he wants it.
Miss Rowland at 7:25pm June 12
LOL YES I HAVE!!! BUT I JUST BRUSHED IT OFF AND SAID, "REALLY"...BUT I KNEW WHAT HE MEANT...JUST LIKE NAKIYAH SAID...
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Nakiyah PrimaDona Love at 2:17pm June 12
he just loves the nookie is what he really sayin...hmm!
Adrianne Owens at 2:19pm June 12
Hell tah the yeah and it was right after the first time laying in bed. Go figure.
Yvette Lyles at 2:20pm June 12
thats all, some dudes are full of shit, say anything to keep getting your goodies along with others.
Lakisha Jeffries at 2:20pm June 12
Yea lol it was too funny. He started cryin and talkin about how he could see him self wit me and he wanted me to meet hs family the next day. That scared
Lakisha Jeffries at 2:20pm June 12
me for a long time
Chiquita Spears at 2:20pm June 12
Hell yea and Im like hell naw nigga get up and get yo shit I know it was good but u dont love me u love what I can do to u....
Patrick Covington at 2:25pm June 12
Quita you be putting dudes in handcuffs and beating the hell of them..
Chiquita Spears at 2:27pm June 12
LOL...no I dont I dont do the beatings...
Patrick Covington at 2:31pm June 12
you that chick that know a man getting his and know we super sensitive and keep going have toes curled up and losing oxygen to the brain lol..
Jade Fox at 2:41pm June 12
I have had Dudes asking me to have their BABIES and Im not lying...Maybe it wasnt the sex..maybe its because I dont have any kids and I would be a pretty Baby Maker or something lol, and to answer yesterdays question, Nope I'm not attracted tothose types anymore lol
Carmen Renee at 2:43pm June 12
i simpy say i know
Kelia Bell at 2:47pm June 12
I respond, "That's good b/c I love me too!" LOL
Chenear Stevenson at 2:51pm June 12
@quita...lol
Brandy Greene at 3:01pm June 12
Aww boy, u don't love me u just love my doggie style...
Vickie Groves at 4:00pm June 12
Lmfao!!! Yep! And I was very nice to him the rest of the time we spent together but I did the disappearing act on his ass. Blowin up my phone, No returned calls... No texts back... Eventually, I had to change my number. So now, he damn near gonna have to tell me that AND convince me that it's true AND make sure it's a mutual thing beforehand if he wants it.
Miss Rowland at 7:25pm June 12
LOL YES I HAVE!!! BUT I JUST BRUSHED IT OFF AND SAID, "REALLY"...BUT I KNEW WHAT HE MEANT...JUST LIKE NAKIYAH SAID...
How Does Sex Play The Factor
Patrick Covington is asking questions of the day, does a person sex determines if you going to be serious or not with them? Make sure to peep out other questions and comments welcomed.
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Adrianne Owens at 10:10am June 15
Hell to the naw!! We've been over this before Pat.....you can teach a person how to sex you up in the bedroom...look for other aspects and stop being so damn superficial all the time.
Carlos IamaMan Spencer at 10:16am June 15
No. Though great sex can be a reason why a person doesnt want to leave, it wil nt ever be a reason i choose to be with any woman.
Patrick Covington at 10:16am June 15
Adrianne I agree 100% but for some odd reasons ppl think sex makes a person! We going to touch on this for 30 mins and move to something new I think everyone will like it.
Chiquita Spears at 10:24am June 15
Been there done that you are setting yourself up for failure if this is what you base your relationship on the older you get the more you learn this is not the way....
Vicskeyas Faith Moore at 10:38am June 15
definitely not, sometimes that is all the person is good for.
Patrick Covington at 10:42am June 15
Jacque why is it important to you.
Jacque Ford at 10:48am June 15
I have to say I feel it does for me, although u all have good points I feel tht if u can't satisfy me completely what is the point! Let's think about it.... I have met so many ppl that stick with their mates bc they are so good to them but they cheat on them bc they can't put it down in the bedroom! U can teach Dogs new tricks all day! The main ones u teach r the ones that cheat bc now they can catch something new with what they learned from u!
Patrick Covington at 10:53am June 15
WOW Jacque! Anyone want to comment on that one?
Chiquita Spears at 10:56am June 15
@Jacque very interesting thought....Never looked at it like that...
Ashli Clanton at 10:57am June 15
although that may be true Adrianne, sometimes size can play a huge role, especially if the relationship is new and sex is introduced too quickly.
Vicskeyas Faith Moore at 11:41am June 15
now Jaque, I never looked at it from that point of view, but I still contend that in the end, it may be all about the sex.
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Adrianne Owens at 10:10am June 15
Hell to the naw!! We've been over this before Pat.....you can teach a person how to sex you up in the bedroom...look for other aspects and stop being so damn superficial all the time.
Carlos IamaMan Spencer at 10:16am June 15
No. Though great sex can be a reason why a person doesnt want to leave, it wil nt ever be a reason i choose to be with any woman.
Patrick Covington at 10:16am June 15
Adrianne I agree 100% but for some odd reasons ppl think sex makes a person! We going to touch on this for 30 mins and move to something new I think everyone will like it.
Chiquita Spears at 10:24am June 15
Been there done that you are setting yourself up for failure if this is what you base your relationship on the older you get the more you learn this is not the way....
Vicskeyas Faith Moore at 10:38am June 15
definitely not, sometimes that is all the person is good for.
Patrick Covington at 10:42am June 15
Jacque why is it important to you.
Jacque Ford at 10:48am June 15
I have to say I feel it does for me, although u all have good points I feel tht if u can't satisfy me completely what is the point! Let's think about it.... I have met so many ppl that stick with their mates bc they are so good to them but they cheat on them bc they can't put it down in the bedroom! U can teach Dogs new tricks all day! The main ones u teach r the ones that cheat bc now they can catch something new with what they learned from u!
Patrick Covington at 10:53am June 15
WOW Jacque! Anyone want to comment on that one?
Chiquita Spears at 10:56am June 15
@Jacque very interesting thought....Never looked at it like that...
Ashli Clanton at 10:57am June 15
although that may be true Adrianne, sometimes size can play a huge role, especially if the relationship is new and sex is introduced too quickly.
Vicskeyas Faith Moore at 11:41am June 15
now Jaque, I never looked at it from that point of view, but I still contend that in the end, it may be all about the sex.
Purpose Of Earth
Patrick Covington is asking questions of the day, do you know your purpose in life? Why did God put you on earth.. Something serious to discuss for the A.M. hour.
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Jason PhotosbyJaye Porter at 7:49am June 15
I think i'm here to help children. Cause i married a woman with five kids. And i get so emotional and overjoyed when children join church. It's a wonderful feeling.
Timothy Dorsey at 7:51am June 15
Spiritual evolution
Chenear Stevenson at 7:58am June 15
Nope! I been trying to figure out for years. I pray one day it is reveiled or maybe it is already and I just don't see it.
Chiquita Spears at 8:03am June 15
I have been trying to figure out what my purpose is can't seem to come to a conclusion but I pray everyday that GOD reveals to me what it is that he wants me to do in this life.
Patrick Covington at 8:06am June 15
I think a lot of times we walk through life and things are right in front of us but it might not be something we like right off top. For me I love to talk and try to solve problems but it takes a lot of out you.. But that and create art is something I enjoy to do.
Charlisha TheLioness Price at 8:17am June 15
I believe I'm here to LOVE and CREATE....that's what my sprirt feels at all times.......
Jason PhotosbyJaye Porter at 8:25am June 15
Creating is also part of mine. But the children seem to have taken a large amount of energy.
Adrion Tyrell Jones-The AtJ-project at 9:02am June 15
I am here to POSITIVELY INFLUENCE others through various outlets be that poetry,art/photography,an open ear,or a shoulder to cry on.I have always been artistic and tried to help others.I lost my artistic muse some time ago but over the past year or two feel that I am coming back.Both HELPING others and EXPRESSING myself are my JOYS in this LIFE.
Myke T. Newman at 9:57am June 15
Mine is teaching and utilizing my creative talents to positively inspire others to persistently follow their dreams, especial to our youth.
Jacque Ford at 10:27am June 15
I thought I did but I have to b honest and say I'm not sure at this point!
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Jason PhotosbyJaye Porter at 7:49am June 15
I think i'm here to help children. Cause i married a woman with five kids. And i get so emotional and overjoyed when children join church. It's a wonderful feeling.
Timothy Dorsey at 7:51am June 15
Spiritual evolution
Chenear Stevenson at 7:58am June 15
Nope! I been trying to figure out for years. I pray one day it is reveiled or maybe it is already and I just don't see it.
Chiquita Spears at 8:03am June 15
I have been trying to figure out what my purpose is can't seem to come to a conclusion but I pray everyday that GOD reveals to me what it is that he wants me to do in this life.
Patrick Covington at 8:06am June 15
I think a lot of times we walk through life and things are right in front of us but it might not be something we like right off top. For me I love to talk and try to solve problems but it takes a lot of out you.. But that and create art is something I enjoy to do.
Charlisha TheLioness Price at 8:17am June 15
I believe I'm here to LOVE and CREATE....that's what my sprirt feels at all times.......
Jason PhotosbyJaye Porter at 8:25am June 15
Creating is also part of mine. But the children seem to have taken a large amount of energy.
Adrion Tyrell Jones-The AtJ-project at 9:02am June 15
I am here to POSITIVELY INFLUENCE others through various outlets be that poetry,art/photography,an open ear,or a shoulder to cry on.I have always been artistic and tried to help others.I lost my artistic muse some time ago but over the past year or two feel that I am coming back.Both HELPING others and EXPRESSING myself are my JOYS in this LIFE.
Myke T. Newman at 9:57am June 15
Mine is teaching and utilizing my creative talents to positively inspire others to persistently follow their dreams, especial to our youth.
Jacque Ford at 10:27am June 15
I thought I did but I have to b honest and say I'm not sure at this point!
Name Calling
Patrick Covington is asking questions of the day, why is it that if you have a one night stand with someone they consider you a hoe? What that make they stupid ass? This goes both ways! Also make sure to read other questions it got heated.
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Dani Brown at 10:23am June 18
Lol yes it does go both ways... Unfortunately society has a double standard for men vs. Women. :-/
Tatiana Hughey at 10:26am June 18
I AGREE WITH U DANI......
Hanifah Sarl Abioto at 10:28am June 18
well I can't speak from personal experience but I feel that it has much to do with sexism... from a certain point of view of course... EXAMPLE: about a yr ago I started kickin it with this dude... so I went to chill with him and he tells me he has 4 kids (pause right there I said HELLS NO)...one just born the day before... ages...4, TWO 2 yr olds, and the newborn... I said oh you had twins I'm a twin... "No two different baby momma's with them. I had met this chick at the club and fucked her and a couple months later she called and said she was pregnant (pause again... this nigga HAS to have syphillis, AIDS, crabs everything u have a one night stand and no condom EW) but anyway. So he goes on to say "yea that HOE it was between me and this other dude and it ended up being me".... Granted we as women HAVE to take control of our reproductive systems... but WTF? you a hoe... calling her a hoe... I got the bloody hell of out there!
GoddessChee Msdoing Myownthang at 10:31am June 18
i would not consider a male or female a whore unless having one nights stands is something they do on the regular...i know of some (male and female) and they just simply fuck a person cause they want to with no strings attached...it's not my character to do that...i tried a one night stand and it turned into a three year and on going friendship...so you're not a whore if you have a one night stand...just don't have them ALL THE TIME...LOL
Dani Brown at 10:32am June 18
Wow... I'm not even shocked by that Hanifah lol. I know a guy who is 22 with 4 kids/3 BM's
Chelsea Trenise at 10:37am June 18
WOW 4 kids and he calling someone else a whore....EWWWW im at a lost 4 words he know he dead wrong!!
Hanifah Sarl Abioto at 10:38am June 18
girl HELLS NO i was not raised like that... if that is your pattern then that means you have no problems having children by anyone... but then want to say your baby moms is a bitch... nigga please you just didnt do any proper screening... and I agree that if that is how you want to live your sex life then do so... there are many ways to live your sex life and safely... ranging from one person to however many... as long as you arent compromising yourself... and the word whore is so played to me... as many people that have sex and have been having sex.... bc even before our so called "loose" times... 95% of american women had premarital sex 75 years ago... not too much has changed. and men have even been encouraged to have sex so its not some new something
Dani Brown at 10:41am June 18
So true Hanifah, And Chelsea a lot of men would rather put the blame on the woman than man up and admit they F'd up lol.
Brandy Greene at 10:41am June 18
You are both grown and there is no need for the double standard, if a woman gives it up quick then she is labeled as a hoe then the same should apply for a man...
Dani Brown at 10:46am June 18
I agree Brandy. Two consenting adults having sex is just that, regardless of if its night 1 or night 100. However, if having sex on the 1st night makes the woman a hoe... The same goes for the male.
Hanifah Sarl Abioto at 10:47am June 18
i agree. but to be honest i don't think it should be applied to anyone. bc most people who do have frequent unsafe sex practices are self destructive and really dont need anymore labeling or anything to tear them down bc they are doing enough of that themselves. its a false sense of self. bc you have then moved from being a person who defines their sex to someone who lets their sex define them. and letting anything define you is never a good thing... so the word is played
Chelsea Trenise at 10:54am June 18
I couldnt agree more Hanifah, thats is so true. when ur that pitiful and have that many issues to where u go around hurting yourself to get a false sense of love or pretend to have a connection with another human being which is just as disposable as the condom u wore during the conquest is really sad. ppl just need to elvate themselves and grow up, period.
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Dani Brown at 10:23am June 18
Lol yes it does go both ways... Unfortunately society has a double standard for men vs. Women. :-/
Tatiana Hughey at 10:26am June 18
I AGREE WITH U DANI......
Hanifah Sarl Abioto at 10:28am June 18
well I can't speak from personal experience but I feel that it has much to do with sexism... from a certain point of view of course... EXAMPLE: about a yr ago I started kickin it with this dude... so I went to chill with him and he tells me he has 4 kids (pause right there I said HELLS NO)...one just born the day before... ages...4, TWO 2 yr olds, and the newborn... I said oh you had twins I'm a twin... "No two different baby momma's with them. I had met this chick at the club and fucked her and a couple months later she called and said she was pregnant (pause again... this nigga HAS to have syphillis, AIDS, crabs everything u have a one night stand and no condom EW) but anyway. So he goes on to say "yea that HOE it was between me and this other dude and it ended up being me".... Granted we as women HAVE to take control of our reproductive systems... but WTF? you a hoe... calling her a hoe... I got the bloody hell of out there!
GoddessChee Msdoing Myownthang at 10:31am June 18
i would not consider a male or female a whore unless having one nights stands is something they do on the regular...i know of some (male and female) and they just simply fuck a person cause they want to with no strings attached...it's not my character to do that...i tried a one night stand and it turned into a three year and on going friendship...so you're not a whore if you have a one night stand...just don't have them ALL THE TIME...LOL
Dani Brown at 10:32am June 18
Wow... I'm not even shocked by that Hanifah lol. I know a guy who is 22 with 4 kids/3 BM's
Chelsea Trenise at 10:37am June 18
WOW 4 kids and he calling someone else a whore....EWWWW im at a lost 4 words he know he dead wrong!!
Hanifah Sarl Abioto at 10:38am June 18
girl HELLS NO i was not raised like that... if that is your pattern then that means you have no problems having children by anyone... but then want to say your baby moms is a bitch... nigga please you just didnt do any proper screening... and I agree that if that is how you want to live your sex life then do so... there are many ways to live your sex life and safely... ranging from one person to however many... as long as you arent compromising yourself... and the word whore is so played to me... as many people that have sex and have been having sex.... bc even before our so called "loose" times... 95% of american women had premarital sex 75 years ago... not too much has changed. and men have even been encouraged to have sex so its not some new something
Dani Brown at 10:41am June 18
So true Hanifah, And Chelsea a lot of men would rather put the blame on the woman than man up and admit they F'd up lol.
Brandy Greene at 10:41am June 18
You are both grown and there is no need for the double standard, if a woman gives it up quick then she is labeled as a hoe then the same should apply for a man...
Dani Brown at 10:46am June 18
I agree Brandy. Two consenting adults having sex is just that, regardless of if its night 1 or night 100. However, if having sex on the 1st night makes the woman a hoe... The same goes for the male.
Hanifah Sarl Abioto at 10:47am June 18
i agree. but to be honest i don't think it should be applied to anyone. bc most people who do have frequent unsafe sex practices are self destructive and really dont need anymore labeling or anything to tear them down bc they are doing enough of that themselves. its a false sense of self. bc you have then moved from being a person who defines their sex to someone who lets their sex define them. and letting anything define you is never a good thing... so the word is played
Chelsea Trenise at 10:54am June 18
I couldnt agree more Hanifah, thats is so true. when ur that pitiful and have that many issues to where u go around hurting yourself to get a false sense of love or pretend to have a connection with another human being which is just as disposable as the condom u wore during the conquest is really sad. ppl just need to elvate themselves and grow up, period.
Why Brag
Patrick Covington is asking questions of the day, do you think that people who can't handle buisness in the bedroom brag about what they got and can do? Also make sure to read other questions it got heated.
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Adrianne Owens at 12:40pm June 18
UHHH Yep
Dani Brown at 12:41pm June 18
Yea to over compensate.
Princess Heard at 12:46pm June 18
Yes! Especially entertainers
Chenear Stevenson at 12:46pm June 18
Yep! If a dude starts bragging then I automatically knows that he isn't working with nothing...lol
Royce TheSmim Morgan at 12:47pm June 18
Hell yeah...
Francesca Cole at 12:50pm June 18
Most definitely, but some guys can talk about it slightly and back it up. Women can usually tell by the delivery and the confidence the man has...its hard to explain lol...
Marcus L Buckley at 12:50pm June 18
Haaaaaaa
Dominique Latrice Brown at 3:14pm June 18
Yup. And dats a major turn off. Why u telln me how u got it and wat u can do wit it? Who told u that u was good? Cuz what works for some dont work for all. I dont wana hear bout what u think u can do cuz 10 times out of 10 its garbage. Lol
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Adrianne Owens at 12:40pm June 18
UHHH Yep
Dani Brown at 12:41pm June 18
Yea to over compensate.
Princess Heard at 12:46pm June 18
Yes! Especially entertainers
Chenear Stevenson at 12:46pm June 18
Yep! If a dude starts bragging then I automatically knows that he isn't working with nothing...lol
Royce TheSmim Morgan at 12:47pm June 18
Hell yeah...
Francesca Cole at 12:50pm June 18
Most definitely, but some guys can talk about it slightly and back it up. Women can usually tell by the delivery and the confidence the man has...its hard to explain lol...
Marcus L Buckley at 12:50pm June 18
Haaaaaaa
Dominique Latrice Brown at 3:14pm June 18
Yup. And dats a major turn off. Why u telln me how u got it and wat u can do wit it? Who told u that u was good? Cuz what works for some dont work for all. I dont wana hear bout what u think u can do cuz 10 times out of 10 its garbage. Lol
Why Complain
Patrick Covington is asking questions of the day, why is that women bitch and complain about men, no good this and that and then end up knocked up.If so no good why have children after children with them?
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Christopher Miller at 2:37pm June 17
sex had a private discussion outside of her discussed discussion.
Dani Brown at 2:40pm June 17
Because those type of women are foolish settlers... They settle for the no good rather than search for better... Or probably know they can't do much better or aren't much better themselves.Women know when a man aint shit waayy before they sleep with him.. Trust me on that.
Tiffany Jones at 2:43pm June 17
Alot of women get caught up in potential. He aint itsh but he has the potential to be great and they want to stick around to see the finished product. Another reason is some women are hell bent on convincing themselves they can change a man. Only 2 people can change that man. Himself and God. And lastly, some women are afraid to be alone so they settle. They figure a nothin a$$ dude is better than no dude at all.
Darius Knox at 2:45pm June 17
ego
Patrick Covington at 2:48pm June 17
That is crazy tiffany! I say this if the dude aint shit this and that stay off FB blasting him and work your problems out don't u agree?
Brandy Greene at 2:53pm June 17
@ Christopher..LOL...that was real....
Tiffany Jones at 2:54pm June 17
Well alot of people vent on FB you know. And others want attention. I mean, there are some guys on here that respond if you put up the smallest comment, they are responding with let me do this and that for you. Some women get off on that. I do think that they should try work it out off FB, but everyone isn't into actually fixing their problems. It's easier to whine about them.
RaShaunda Farmer at 2:55pm June 17
Foolishness!I know a boy that already has 6 kids by 4 women and his new girl is now pregnant with his 7th!Whyyyyy?!Some women get caught up in the short-term (looks,money,material things,etc.) instead of focusing on the long-term.They don't realize that they're stuck with this fool for,at least,the next 18 years....and that's IF he chooses to be a part of the child's life.Which,sadly,most of em don't.
Patrick Covington at 2:56pm June 17
So true and chris that was some real shiii! I am not going to talk about a woman being jack and then nut in her that makes me look just as stupid for doing it!
Tiffany Jones at 2:59pm June 17
But men do it too now. You know the chick is crazy and you go and knock her up again. Then she's all in your phone calling your female friends telling them you better not touch my man b*tch and all of that. You knew her ass was crazy from jump. Why do that to yourself again?
Koesha Magnificent Cook at 3:00pm June 17
B/C they azz needs 2 pop them damn BIRTH CONTROL PILLS cuz I DAMN sho take mines everyday & they work hell. Yea its a 1 % chance u can get pregnant but majority of em be skippin & tryin 2 get pregnant on purpose hell I'm TURNED off by a Nig dat hv 2 many kids but they always want a Baddd Bitch w/out 1. I thinks NOT hell. I can deal w/ a man w/ 1 but he betta be a damn gud father & set an example 4 me so if I was 2 hv 1 by him then I wudnt hv 2 worry but most females live 4 the present! Shit I think about the present & future w/ a MAN I'm dating
Patrick Covington at 3:01pm June 17
Good question I sum it up, puss* talks to some men more than the mind! Some dudes would fuc* a dog if it would hold still.
Tiffany Jones at 3:05pm June 17
I guess at the end of the day Patrick, it is what it is and will stay that way until people take responsibility for their own choices.
Patrick Covington at 3:07pm June 17
Amen to that one!
Britnee Gillum at 3:27pm June 17
I soo agree!!!!
Jaden Hou at 3:44pm June 17
I do agree 2.
Dekimabara Wilson at 8:58pm June 17
Speaking from experience, most niggas change once they find out you are pregnant by them. But we as fermales have to learn from our mistakes even it that mean raising that child on their own.
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Christopher Miller at 2:37pm June 17
sex had a private discussion outside of her discussed discussion.
Dani Brown at 2:40pm June 17
Because those type of women are foolish settlers... They settle for the no good rather than search for better... Or probably know they can't do much better or aren't much better themselves.Women know when a man aint shit waayy before they sleep with him.. Trust me on that.
Tiffany Jones at 2:43pm June 17
Alot of women get caught up in potential. He aint itsh but he has the potential to be great and they want to stick around to see the finished product. Another reason is some women are hell bent on convincing themselves they can change a man. Only 2 people can change that man. Himself and God. And lastly, some women are afraid to be alone so they settle. They figure a nothin a$$ dude is better than no dude at all.
Darius Knox at 2:45pm June 17
ego
Patrick Covington at 2:48pm June 17
That is crazy tiffany! I say this if the dude aint shit this and that stay off FB blasting him and work your problems out don't u agree?
Brandy Greene at 2:53pm June 17
@ Christopher..LOL...that was real....
Tiffany Jones at 2:54pm June 17
Well alot of people vent on FB you know. And others want attention. I mean, there are some guys on here that respond if you put up the smallest comment, they are responding with let me do this and that for you. Some women get off on that. I do think that they should try work it out off FB, but everyone isn't into actually fixing their problems. It's easier to whine about them.
RaShaunda Farmer at 2:55pm June 17
Foolishness!I know a boy that already has 6 kids by 4 women and his new girl is now pregnant with his 7th!Whyyyyy?!Some women get caught up in the short-term (looks,money,material things,etc.) instead of focusing on the long-term.They don't realize that they're stuck with this fool for,at least,the next 18 years....and that's IF he chooses to be a part of the child's life.Which,sadly,most of em don't.
Patrick Covington at 2:56pm June 17
So true and chris that was some real shiii! I am not going to talk about a woman being jack and then nut in her that makes me look just as stupid for doing it!
Tiffany Jones at 2:59pm June 17
But men do it too now. You know the chick is crazy and you go and knock her up again. Then she's all in your phone calling your female friends telling them you better not touch my man b*tch and all of that. You knew her ass was crazy from jump. Why do that to yourself again?
Koesha Magnificent Cook at 3:00pm June 17
B/C they azz needs 2 pop them damn BIRTH CONTROL PILLS cuz I DAMN sho take mines everyday & they work hell. Yea its a 1 % chance u can get pregnant but majority of em be skippin & tryin 2 get pregnant on purpose hell I'm TURNED off by a Nig dat hv 2 many kids but they always want a Baddd Bitch w/out 1. I thinks NOT hell. I can deal w/ a man w/ 1 but he betta be a damn gud father & set an example 4 me so if I was 2 hv 1 by him then I wudnt hv 2 worry but most females live 4 the present! Shit I think about the present & future w/ a MAN I'm dating
Patrick Covington at 3:01pm June 17
Good question I sum it up, puss* talks to some men more than the mind! Some dudes would fuc* a dog if it would hold still.
Tiffany Jones at 3:05pm June 17
I guess at the end of the day Patrick, it is what it is and will stay that way until people take responsibility for their own choices.
Patrick Covington at 3:07pm June 17
Amen to that one!
Britnee Gillum at 3:27pm June 17
I soo agree!!!!
Jaden Hou at 3:44pm June 17
I do agree 2.
Dekimabara Wilson at 8:58pm June 17
Speaking from experience, most niggas change once they find out you are pregnant by them. But we as fermales have to learn from our mistakes even it that mean raising that child on their own.
Parent Drama
Patrick Covington is asking questions of the day, if you are dating someone and their parents always in your business how you handle that? You can't make a move without them knowing first. Also make sure to read other questions it got heated.
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Carlos IamaMan Spencer at 1:45pm June 18
U dnt. If they allowed in ur biz frm jump, then ur partner is tha only one who can get them out n im nt a fan of parental advisory so i wud instantly phase myself out. Only two adults can be in one real relationship n unwanted outside interference is neva gd.
Collis Parham at 1:57pm June 18
chuuch
Chiquita Spears at 2:01pm June 18
I agree with Mr. Spencer
Hanifah Sarl Abioto at 2:07pm June 18
JESUS! I was hanging with mine yesterday and she was there and all I could think was... " I cannot deal with his momma. I cannot deal with his momma"... And not even like she was accosting me but you know how you just know when someone aint there... that's it . And to be real like you said if they don't deal with it... then it's not going to get dealt bc that is a real mood killer and it just ends up feeling like I gots to get up outta here! i feel like unless you're married with kids you really don't even have any business trying to handle that. and even then... the person to whome the parent belongs to is in the end responsible... bc when you're in a relationship... you're in a relationship with the family too... and most times when things go sour with one there is bound to be a domino effect
Carmen Renee at 2:16pm June 18
I AGREE WITH CARLOS
Shundra Hayslett at 3:30pm June 18
I BROKE UP WITH A GUY A WHILE AGO FOR THE SAME REASON. WE WERE BOTH IN OUR MID-LATE TWENTIES BUT SHE WAS ALWAYS IN OUR BUSINESS. LOOKING BACK I'TS KINDA FUNNY. WE COULD NOT EVEN GO OUT TO EAT WITHOUT HER CALLING HIM AT LEAST ONCE ON OUR DATE. SHE ALWAYS KNEW WHAT WAS GOING ON IN OUR RELATIONSHIP AND ALWAYS HAD SOMETHING TO SAY ABOUT IT. I TALKED TO HIM ABOUT IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN HE NEVER SAID ANYTHING. SHE COMMENTED ON OUR HOME AND OR SCHEDULES SHE EVEN HAD COMMENTS ABOUT MY CAR. UNTIL ONE DAY IT ALL CAME TO A HEAD AND I BLEW UP AT BOTH OF THEM. IT REALLY KILLED ME TO HAVE TO TALK TO HIS MOM THAT WAY BUT IF HE HAD STOPPED IT WHEN IT FIRST STARTED IT WOULD NOT HAVE CAME TO ALL THAT. IT'S BEEN 5 YRS AND HE IS ON HIS SECOND DIVORCE SINCE THEN AND I WONDER WHY.
Carlos IamaMan Spencer at 6:08pm June 18
Sad.
Deneka L. Lewis at 7:45pm June 18
you destroy them!!! Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha!!!Seriously though, it depends on how much you care about the person you are dating. Deal with it. But leave if it ain't worth it. And the person you are dating should step the fuck up too.
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Carlos IamaMan Spencer at 1:45pm June 18
U dnt. If they allowed in ur biz frm jump, then ur partner is tha only one who can get them out n im nt a fan of parental advisory so i wud instantly phase myself out. Only two adults can be in one real relationship n unwanted outside interference is neva gd.
Collis Parham at 1:57pm June 18
chuuch
Chiquita Spears at 2:01pm June 18
I agree with Mr. Spencer
Hanifah Sarl Abioto at 2:07pm June 18
JESUS! I was hanging with mine yesterday and she was there and all I could think was... " I cannot deal with his momma. I cannot deal with his momma"... And not even like she was accosting me but you know how you just know when someone aint there... that's it . And to be real like you said if they don't deal with it... then it's not going to get dealt bc that is a real mood killer and it just ends up feeling like I gots to get up outta here! i feel like unless you're married with kids you really don't even have any business trying to handle that. and even then... the person to whome the parent belongs to is in the end responsible... bc when you're in a relationship... you're in a relationship with the family too... and most times when things go sour with one there is bound to be a domino effect
Carmen Renee at 2:16pm June 18
I AGREE WITH CARLOS
Shundra Hayslett at 3:30pm June 18
I BROKE UP WITH A GUY A WHILE AGO FOR THE SAME REASON. WE WERE BOTH IN OUR MID-LATE TWENTIES BUT SHE WAS ALWAYS IN OUR BUSINESS. LOOKING BACK I'TS KINDA FUNNY. WE COULD NOT EVEN GO OUT TO EAT WITHOUT HER CALLING HIM AT LEAST ONCE ON OUR DATE. SHE ALWAYS KNEW WHAT WAS GOING ON IN OUR RELATIONSHIP AND ALWAYS HAD SOMETHING TO SAY ABOUT IT. I TALKED TO HIM ABOUT IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN HE NEVER SAID ANYTHING. SHE COMMENTED ON OUR HOME AND OR SCHEDULES SHE EVEN HAD COMMENTS ABOUT MY CAR. UNTIL ONE DAY IT ALL CAME TO A HEAD AND I BLEW UP AT BOTH OF THEM. IT REALLY KILLED ME TO HAVE TO TALK TO HIS MOM THAT WAY BUT IF HE HAD STOPPED IT WHEN IT FIRST STARTED IT WOULD NOT HAVE CAME TO ALL THAT. IT'S BEEN 5 YRS AND HE IS ON HIS SECOND DIVORCE SINCE THEN AND I WONDER WHY.
Carlos IamaMan Spencer at 6:08pm June 18
Sad.
Deneka L. Lewis at 7:45pm June 18
you destroy them!!! Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha!!!Seriously though, it depends on how much you care about the person you are dating. Deal with it. But leave if it ain't worth it. And the person you are dating should step the fuck up too.
Monday, June 1, 2009
Why We Stay?
Patrick Covington is asking questions of the day, why is that our friends be in abusive relationships and come to us and cry and ask for advice, only to go back and take the person back and get beat even more. Then get mad when we don't want to hear it anymore! If a couple of gifts and head make you go back you need help that we can't offer. Mental shit!. What you guys think?
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Rivera Tracksmith Perkins at 10:17am June 1
Dang Pat u got some pretty good topics 2day....
James Davis at 10:22am June 1
Dude.. i can remember when my own MOTHER would call on us (my brothers) to come get the nigga that was abusing her... We would F()*&*#& dude UP!!! and tomorrow.. them knuckleheads back together.... my advice to people... STAY OUT OF IT!!!!! GIVE ADVICE AND KEEP IT MOVING!!!
Paula Hatton at 10:22am June 1 via Facebook Mobile
We actually had this conversation and they thought I was insensitive because I don't want you coming to me bogging my emotions down with things you don't want to change. Don't tell me you're getting beat up if you don't want help. That breaks my heart and knowing my friend is dealing with that would drive me crazy knowing there isn't anything I can do.
Aj Atl Murry at 10:24am June 1
its only one comment i can make to dat pat and dat is they go back cuz they just plain ignorant and dats just bein honest .
Adrianne Owens at 10:34am June 1
All of you guys comments are very opinionated which you are entitled too but I've been in an abusive relationship which lasted 5, almost 6 years, and it is never that simple. It has nothing to do with ignorance or being stupid or etc. It is a certain fear that has been put into your spirit that holds on to you mentally and physically for a long time until one day God steps in and you find a new found strength to move on. The person in the relationship who is being abused needs a shoulder to cry on. Whether you know it or not, you are doing a great deed and that is the best thing you can do for your friend is to listen....each time you listen and try to help, the concept gets embedded deeper and deeper into that person's soul. You may think you are not helping and you may get tired of hearing it but trust that it is breaking through the surface little by little. You are that person's will power and strength. This is a topic better suited for elsewhere-fb not long enuff. LOL!!!!!
Patrick Covington at 10:38am June 1
We can always take this over to the blog site once we finished.. We understand it is hard to leave. But gifts and I been dating so long should not being a factor. It needs to be because you fear your life!
Adrianne Owens at 10:38am June 1
I hear people say why dont she just leave or i dont see how someone can let him beat her...well, you consider urself a strong person but the abuser works on u mentally first and then once ur mental state has been broken, they work on u physically...each attack lessens who u r and takes a chunk out of who u r....by the time, you get to a certain point, ur a walking corpse...reality isnt reality anymore...i can go on and on about this so I'll stop cuz it's still fresh...only recently was I not ashamed to talk about it so I have alot to say.
LaShae Johnson at 10:41am June 1
I was in a situation like this b4. It's was a friend of mines and it was actually a guy being abuse. The only thing I told him was to make a desicion on his life and how he would like to live his life. I didnt want to turn him away and I didint want to feed him negative energy. But I did tell him that I dont want to be apart of his relationship with his friend, and that when we see each other the conversation should not be about his relationship.
Vandy Harris at 10:44am June 1
When a person loves someone more than they love God they will suffer the consequences. He is a jealous God and anyone who is in a situation of abuse they stay for the ultimate reason of LOVE, they don't love the abuse but they do love the abuser more than they love themselves or anyone else including the Lord above. So until people can get the power of the all mighty involved they will forever be stuck in the situations that they are in.
Patrick Covington at 10:45am June 1
People need to hear how it breaks you down because I think younger girls are being abused and they need a way out. Tell us how you got out.
Carmen Renee at 10:50am June 1
As a friend you are always caught between a rock and hard place whenit comes ot this subject!! Your friend comes to you because he/she feel they can trust you.They ask for help but do not want to take it but do get upset with you when you refuse as friend because you care to put up with their mess.. My question is do terminate your friendship with this person because they refuse to alleviate themselves for the negative situation. My problem is I care such much and I amn sick of being burned by selfish people!!
LaShae Johnson at 10:54am June 1
I'm gonna used my sisiter as an example she has 3 girls 2 of then are in high school 1 of them is a senior. I was at my sisiter's house yesterday for a family get together and me an my nieces talk alot about anything, they know they can come to me atell me anything and not be judged about. So my niece told me that she was dating on of the young men from church and told me that he started to be abusive to her mentally. She stated that she didnt want to be with him anymore simply because she already know her family is gonna go gorrilla on this nigga and second she has been tault that real men dont hit or mentally abuse women at all! So we as a generation have to teach the young folks that its not cool to do that.
Adrianne Owens at 10:57am June 1
Pat,We probably have to take it over to the blog spot to answer all these questions!!!
Adrianne Owens at 11:04am June 1
@vandy- u are absolutely right about loving God first....I was raised in the church and had faith and believed in God but I also believed that God would never put more on me than I could bare and everything happened for a reason...now that I am out of the situation, I know that all those beliefs were correct and now I know the real difference between good and bad everything...I didnt love myself enough to leave earlier...my self-esteem was already low & he made it worse so I was 2 far gone at that point...I used 2 say I wouldnt be one of those girls but u never knw wat path ur life will travel until u actually get to that place...this topic is so deep with me....Im not trying to sound insensitive 2 the friends persepective...just trying to enlighten on the victims feelings...
Patrick Covington at 11:05am June 1
we can keep talking because I don't think we all can get on blogspot at work.. So lets chat this up
Adrianne Owens at 11:07am June 1
@Pat When I half way left, he still abused me sending me 2 the hospital yet again even though we weren't living 2gether....when I looked in the mirror at the bruises on my body I realized I was gonna die by his hands and that wasnt something I wanted my kids, family, or me 2 go thru...got a restraining order and filed charges..he only did 2mths and got out but @ least I proved 2 myself that I had grown & will continue 2 grow...my life had begun...more to it but as I stated fb not long enuff.
LaShae Johnson at 11:08am June 1
Well Adrianne you made it! You had the courage to get out! No matter how long it took you are still here and you got out!
LaShae Johnson at 11:11am June 1
@Andrianne you made it! you made the afford to get out!
Adrianne Owens at 11:12am June 1
I never talked about what was going on with me completely to my friends or family...I omitted the really bad details and in a way I believe I tried to 4get as much as possible so pushed the grusome stuff in the back of my mind...once he told me---u think ur a battered woman--i knw niggas who really have battered women who they abuse the hell out of that was too much 4 me-i really knew he was crazy then...once he ramed my head in the wall so hard that i lost conscienceness! Im going to lunch now so i have 2 pick this up in about 45min...
Patrick Covington at 11:16am June 1
Girl you thank Almighty on that. I will post this on blog and we can pick up
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Rivera Tracksmith Perkins at 10:17am June 1
Dang Pat u got some pretty good topics 2day....
James Davis at 10:22am June 1
Dude.. i can remember when my own MOTHER would call on us (my brothers) to come get the nigga that was abusing her... We would F()*&*#& dude UP!!! and tomorrow.. them knuckleheads back together.... my advice to people... STAY OUT OF IT!!!!! GIVE ADVICE AND KEEP IT MOVING!!!
Paula Hatton at 10:22am June 1 via Facebook Mobile
We actually had this conversation and they thought I was insensitive because I don't want you coming to me bogging my emotions down with things you don't want to change. Don't tell me you're getting beat up if you don't want help. That breaks my heart and knowing my friend is dealing with that would drive me crazy knowing there isn't anything I can do.
Aj Atl Murry at 10:24am June 1
its only one comment i can make to dat pat and dat is they go back cuz they just plain ignorant and dats just bein honest .
Adrianne Owens at 10:34am June 1
All of you guys comments are very opinionated which you are entitled too but I've been in an abusive relationship which lasted 5, almost 6 years, and it is never that simple. It has nothing to do with ignorance or being stupid or etc. It is a certain fear that has been put into your spirit that holds on to you mentally and physically for a long time until one day God steps in and you find a new found strength to move on. The person in the relationship who is being abused needs a shoulder to cry on. Whether you know it or not, you are doing a great deed and that is the best thing you can do for your friend is to listen....each time you listen and try to help, the concept gets embedded deeper and deeper into that person's soul. You may think you are not helping and you may get tired of hearing it but trust that it is breaking through the surface little by little. You are that person's will power and strength. This is a topic better suited for elsewhere-fb not long enuff. LOL!!!!!
Patrick Covington at 10:38am June 1
We can always take this over to the blog site once we finished.. We understand it is hard to leave. But gifts and I been dating so long should not being a factor. It needs to be because you fear your life!
Adrianne Owens at 10:38am June 1
I hear people say why dont she just leave or i dont see how someone can let him beat her...well, you consider urself a strong person but the abuser works on u mentally first and then once ur mental state has been broken, they work on u physically...each attack lessens who u r and takes a chunk out of who u r....by the time, you get to a certain point, ur a walking corpse...reality isnt reality anymore...i can go on and on about this so I'll stop cuz it's still fresh...only recently was I not ashamed to talk about it so I have alot to say.
LaShae Johnson at 10:41am June 1
I was in a situation like this b4. It's was a friend of mines and it was actually a guy being abuse. The only thing I told him was to make a desicion on his life and how he would like to live his life. I didnt want to turn him away and I didint want to feed him negative energy. But I did tell him that I dont want to be apart of his relationship with his friend, and that when we see each other the conversation should not be about his relationship.
Vandy Harris at 10:44am June 1
When a person loves someone more than they love God they will suffer the consequences. He is a jealous God and anyone who is in a situation of abuse they stay for the ultimate reason of LOVE, they don't love the abuse but they do love the abuser more than they love themselves or anyone else including the Lord above. So until people can get the power of the all mighty involved they will forever be stuck in the situations that they are in.
Patrick Covington at 10:45am June 1
People need to hear how it breaks you down because I think younger girls are being abused and they need a way out. Tell us how you got out.
Carmen Renee at 10:50am June 1
As a friend you are always caught between a rock and hard place whenit comes ot this subject!! Your friend comes to you because he/she feel they can trust you.They ask for help but do not want to take it but do get upset with you when you refuse as friend because you care to put up with their mess.. My question is do terminate your friendship with this person because they refuse to alleviate themselves for the negative situation. My problem is I care such much and I amn sick of being burned by selfish people!!
LaShae Johnson at 10:54am June 1
I'm gonna used my sisiter as an example she has 3 girls 2 of then are in high school 1 of them is a senior. I was at my sisiter's house yesterday for a family get together and me an my nieces talk alot about anything, they know they can come to me atell me anything and not be judged about. So my niece told me that she was dating on of the young men from church and told me that he started to be abusive to her mentally. She stated that she didnt want to be with him anymore simply because she already know her family is gonna go gorrilla on this nigga and second she has been tault that real men dont hit or mentally abuse women at all! So we as a generation have to teach the young folks that its not cool to do that.
Adrianne Owens at 10:57am June 1
Pat,We probably have to take it over to the blog spot to answer all these questions!!!
Adrianne Owens at 11:04am June 1
@vandy- u are absolutely right about loving God first....I was raised in the church and had faith and believed in God but I also believed that God would never put more on me than I could bare and everything happened for a reason...now that I am out of the situation, I know that all those beliefs were correct and now I know the real difference between good and bad everything...I didnt love myself enough to leave earlier...my self-esteem was already low & he made it worse so I was 2 far gone at that point...I used 2 say I wouldnt be one of those girls but u never knw wat path ur life will travel until u actually get to that place...this topic is so deep with me....Im not trying to sound insensitive 2 the friends persepective...just trying to enlighten on the victims feelings...
Patrick Covington at 11:05am June 1
we can keep talking because I don't think we all can get on blogspot at work.. So lets chat this up
Adrianne Owens at 11:07am June 1
@Pat When I half way left, he still abused me sending me 2 the hospital yet again even though we weren't living 2gether....when I looked in the mirror at the bruises on my body I realized I was gonna die by his hands and that wasnt something I wanted my kids, family, or me 2 go thru...got a restraining order and filed charges..he only did 2mths and got out but @ least I proved 2 myself that I had grown & will continue 2 grow...my life had begun...more to it but as I stated fb not long enuff.
LaShae Johnson at 11:08am June 1
Well Adrianne you made it! You had the courage to get out! No matter how long it took you are still here and you got out!
LaShae Johnson at 11:11am June 1
@Andrianne you made it! you made the afford to get out!
Adrianne Owens at 11:12am June 1
I never talked about what was going on with me completely to my friends or family...I omitted the really bad details and in a way I believe I tried to 4get as much as possible so pushed the grusome stuff in the back of my mind...once he told me---u think ur a battered woman--i knw niggas who really have battered women who they abuse the hell out of that was too much 4 me-i really knew he was crazy then...once he ramed my head in the wall so hard that i lost conscienceness! Im going to lunch now so i have 2 pick this up in about 45min...
Patrick Covington at 11:16am June 1
Girl you thank Almighty on that. I will post this on blog and we can pick up
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