LIFE

Once again I want to thank everyone for showing me love and I’m glad I can help so many people out.

The blog today is another that you can add to the collection and trust me it will not be too long.

Life!

This week has been a rough one for me. I lost a co-worker to a violent death. I had to stop and ask myself, what is life really about? Is it about gaining worldly possession that have no value once you’ve passed? Or is it about building something that can last a lifetime? I question us as people, our motives for living, are we really achieving things in life or are we settling for what we can get? Are we lowering our standards? Do we value our own life? Have we lost hope in ourselves and in others? Or do we stand for something? Do we love because we are afraid to be lonely, so we settle for anything? Or do we love ourselves and can stand to be alone to rebuild our character to be the best we can be for the other person?

The question remains what are you? Are you a leader in life or a follower? Will you stand for something or will you fall for anything? Have you lost your self- love and allow another person to treat you less than what you’re worth? Or will you demand that you be treated like GOD has made you, WONDERFUL!? We settle for people that will harm us mentally and physically but we always blame the other person. Now is the time to assume responsibility and lay the blame on ourselves. Get out, learn to be one with yourself, love yourself and learn how to be your own best friend. Only then can you truly find someone that will love you for you.
Women, stop looking for someone that can take care of you, when you’re able to take care of yourself. Men, stop looking for a woman that you can manipulate. Find someone that is on or past your level that can be a blessing to your soul! WE NEED TO BE PUSHED TO ACHIEVE GREATNESS!

People stop looking for quick money it comes with a price tag that some can’t pay. Crime is on the rise and people are killing and robbing each other left and right. But have you noticed it is a majority of the blacks that are doing it. Why do we continue to take from a race that has been struggling for over 400 years? Even in Africa they are killing each other. Over 3 million people are displaced and are being raped and killed. Any Black Person that is killing another black and not for self-preservation then you are considered to be a racist and part of the Klan. When Hispanics became the minority over blacks that should have been an eye opener that the race is diminishing. More blacks are in jails, in graves and in hell.

I am finished because I promised this would not be long but if we don’t come together as people and stop hurting each other and keeping each other down there will come a day where we will lose everything we have ever gained. I heard someone say once before, “can’t nobody take nothing from me.” I guess the Jews said the same thing with the Nazis, Iraqis said the same thing about the insurgents and Black People said the same thing about slavery. The only people that have not gotten anything back are black!

Learn who you are and build off what you are if you are leader help the followers; teach them how to lead so we all can be a great people that can accomplish something with our lives. I promise we will all be able to chat online in my forum that is coming soon. The Discussion Room! It will be real talk for real people but I need everyone’s support on these blogs. Please repost and show love. I have a special Woman vs Man blog coming next week.

Patrick C

MAN WHO IS THE HATER NOW?

First thank everyone for the love on the Strictly For The Memphis Folks blog.

I have been resting and letting everyone take in air before I hit you again.

I thought I would go lighter but then something hit me, why should I? There is a need to keep digging into a problem that is plaguing the city. Right now we are ranking number two in crimes, number two in foreclosures and number one in hating. I read an article that stated the reason crime is so high because of Turf Wars with gangs. I had to say bullshit! We are number two because our government isn’t offering jobs to people that pay but they allow people to come into the city and buy up all of downtown and now offer 500 k to 1 mill condos. Like how many jobs in this little ass city can afford a note like that? If you do you are working two to three jobs to keep it.

People are frustrated in trying to work and make a dollar and people step right over them to the top because it is the boss’s friend. I have a friend that works for the city and is only making six dollars and it’s temporary so they can lay him off anytime. He is at the end of his rope and just don’t know what to do. That drives people to do things they should not do. But you know the business we are out of control and there is no help insight keep your eyes and ears open and don’t ever ever ever think your ass can’t get caught because you can. And to all the F-up cops and politicians you are the real reason things here are the way they are. People are sick of people taking advantage of situations and to make it worse, you are not even sharing the wealth us. You’re sitting on it not investing anything back into anyone’s community.

We also are in the ranks for foreclosure. I have only couple of things to say stop trying to live above your means to show off. If one job can’t pay for it you better think about it. These jobs are moving out quickly and you never know when yours will be next. Think about the people that work for COORS, Tower Records, Burlington, and Dillards.

They thought shit was gravy and it isn’t. Keep your head up and make sure you can afford what you buy because they will come and get it.

I might end this on one note and it is important to all the people here and especially models. Please stop hating on each other. I had a model the other day tell me some people were mad because she was on a flyer and that people were mad because they were not. I was like what kind of bull is that. If you are not on a flyer maybe you didn’t fit what that company wanted, maybe the picture quality was better or better yet maybe they cut a deal with the model to help promote their event who knows but why should you even care. That is not your business just do your damn job and model and look for breaks for you. I have run into a lot of negative stuff these last couple of months and it is making me hate working with people here.

1. I don’t give a damn what another photographer or model thinks about my work or me.

2. I don’t care how another photographer shot you that is their vision of you they saw you in another art form.

3. I don’t give a damn if another photographer came on to you. I don’t want to know his name. What goes on in their studio is between you and the photographer. I don’t engage in that so I don’t need to know who is doing what.

4. If you have a problem with my work come to me. I am sick of people going to other people discussing someone else’s work especially if you took the photos from the photographer and didn’t have a problem you must have liked them. If you have a problem discuss it with the photographer he might be able to correct it. Everyone is not the same and people edit photos differently stop acting like kids snitching and deal with the person who took the photos.

5. Last if your ass is coming to a shoot make sure you are on point this saves a lot of time and effort when you hair is done, nails done, faces is made up, you have good clothing and you are ready to grace the camera. If you look like shit expect your photos to look the same. We are not witchdoctors we make you look good but it starts with you.

I am going to end it off here to everyone in the entertainment business start networking; all this hating is the one reason Memphis isn’t on top we find ways not to work together. Stop all the he say she say stuff if you heard something about yourself ask that person that so called said it. Stop asking your neighbor! If you have a service that you can offer please offer it and people spend money to support it. Learn how to Barter I work with other photographers and people I am not hating on anything. NOTHING BUT LOVE TO ANYONE THAT IS POSITIVE AND TRYING TO MOVE FORWARD!

I am getting on all the clubs in my next blogs. We are going to form a group to protest all these high ass rates at these clubs where black people go. Support your minority Clubs Silver Spoon, Plush, Fire and Ice, Round One, and others. And clubs treat your people like they are everything because if they stop coming trust me you are going to close down.

Thanks for your support and I hope I offended someone because that means you are one of the people I am talking about get your shit together. It is time for the M to grow and build and it starts with everyone.

Big ups to Custom Shirt King, Dream Models, Wolfpack, Panda Modeling School (KY), and B Stone. Keep doing your thing and if you are doing something big let’s blog on it. I think we need to start spotlighting people let’s uplift. Oh to E-Feezy get at me man keep doing your thing loved you at Silver Spoon (Real Talk).

AND IF YOU ARE POSITIVE AND MOVING FORWARD PASS THE WORD TELL PEOPLE TO COME AND READ THIS BLOG ESPECIALLY IF YOU THINK THEY ARE A HATER.

WHY WE PUT OURSELVES IN SITUTATIONS PART 2

WHY WE PUT OURSELVES IN SITUATIONS PART 2

Once again I am back with part 2. First let me thank everyone that sent emails and commented on the blog over 200 views to the page in a week.

I thought about what to say and how to say it for a week now. I didn’t want people to think that I was trying to mess anyone’s so call game up or give advice. I am just keeping things real and that is the only way I can be. I stated last week that I was going to give tips on keeping yours near and also talking about the other things (Hint Read The Blog).

Here are a couple of rules that you need to keep in your mind.

1. You have to be friends before you can become lovers.
A. You can’t date a stranger you must know a person’s good and bad and their limits to ensure you will not piss them off too much. It will still happen but you will at least know some limits.

B. Learn the person, if they are a “Hoe” while you are friends don’t expect that to change once they start dating you. Some things are in people’s blood and hard to get rid of.

C. Never cross the line of dating a friend until you have talked about all the pitfalls of it because once you do it, it is hard to go back and be true friends especially when there was sex involved. Ass makes most people crazy.

2. Never,Never mess with a married man or woman.
A. You can get your ass killed like that.

B. Too much for the person to lose, trust me, they are not going to leave them for you if they do, trust they are going to cheat on you also.

C. If your crazy ass is going to mess off, which I know you are, protect yourself don’t take something nasty back home to your husband or wife. Don’t get pregnant and then take the person through hell, use your mind.

3. If you feel that you are losing yours.
A. Try something new maybe a little gift. Wash them up tonight let them relax; make love to their minds and not their body.

B. Try listening to them more often pay attention to what they need and put yourself on the backend. (Most people only focus on themselves and not the partner).

C. Try being there without sex. If a person is not happy with your conversation, and the little things you do for them it could be a sexual relationship only.
Talk about expectations what do they want from you, are you everything to them.

4. Do you feel they are cheating? (I am not going to talk too much on this)
A. Don’t assume anything find out.

B. Catch their ass, once caught, either they are going to lie which most people do or they are going to tell the truth. You decide if you believe it or not.

C. Are they spending less and less time with you? Are they not calling as often? Have they stop doing the little things? If your sex life was very active has it cut down a lot?

D.Have you noticed little things that are not the same: panties in his clothing, bed got little stains and you know your ass has not been there, more dishes in the sink than normal, more soap being used and he is always tired or can’t do you when you want to or how he used to. HMMMMMM Think about it not saying they are but watch.

E. Men we have things to look at I do not hate. I know this is going to sound nasty but you better look. Check your girl’s panties in the dirty clothing look for blood and cum stains if sex was rough, it will show. Most women will still be releasing far after sex. Women are slick with theirs and hardly ever get caught. But notice one thing if you have sex often know your girls fit meaning her temple if you know it and once you get in and fall almost through it think twice and keep watch. Either you are getting smaller or she getting something bigger you decide. Most women txt and not talk or they use their emails at work. So men it is much harder but trust me keep your eyes open.

5. Last always protect yourself. (If you are going to have sex, which I know you are).
A. Inspect the goods Men and Women look over the body.

B. Women make sure he is wearing a condom NO EXCEPTIONS!
Women if you are going to put it in your mouth look at it shit turn the light on. Bumps, warts, discharge and nasty DON’T DO IT.

C. Men if you are going to go down and you smell something dead STOP, see a thick white discharge STOP, if bumps are around the lips STOP, if green pus and I have heard it happen STOP AND RUN!

E. Just be safe at all cost men you should not want to stick everything without a condom and women you should think before you let it happen if you get knocked up and worse catch AIDS or spread AIDS. What are you going to do with your life? There is far too much risk out here when it only takes a sec to be safe.

I am going to end this blog on this note I have plenty more to say and will I am getting ready to have a live open forum where women can ask questions and men can also. I know most people are afraid but would like to know “why”. I will keep everyone informed about dates. Let me make note I do not hate on anyone, you do what you do how you do it but one day you will get caught up.

Thanks and may God bless everyone that reads this blog to be a better person inside and out. Much love!

Patrick C

WHY WE PUT OURSELVES IN SITUTATIONS?

WHY WE PUT OURSELVES IN SITUATIONS?

This blog is going to touch on a few things that are going to make you think. First thing I would like to discuss is Love. Let’s define it first 1 a (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3) : affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests b : an assurance of love . There are millions of definitions for and many languages you can say it AMOR is my favorite. Listen to it A Mor shit meaning giving up more than you really want to.

I have been doing a little studying and found a lot of people are dating people and really don’t know why the hell they are with them! I found a lot of people dating because they don’t want to be lonely and some just Fuc- - - - and calling it love just to get what they want. I found more women screwing multiple dudes just to get into a club to get their rent paid, buy new clothing etc. I was like damn some of the stories I have heard are truly amazing.

Why is it that women feel like the only way they can get something or make something of themselves is opening their legs? I just can’t put my finger on it, does your brain count for anything? A lot of people go around and claim and sleep with guys for status just to say I am with someone. It is like a celebrity coming into town and you go to his room. You know he is not coming to Memphis every other weekend to see you and he is not going to make you his main chick hell he can get ass in any city he stops. So why would you allow your body to be abused just to say you have been with someone.

Oh and the fellas you are just as worse messing with them and spoiling them and making them fat and lazy. You know the worst part and I am going on, you not even wearing a condom! Enough Said!

NEXT: Love once again whew had to get that out.

Why do we date? Why Do We Love? Why Do We Put Up With Shit?
Answer these questions. I recently had a discussion with a friend and we spoke about a lot of things. One thing that caught me the most is why we as men have a good woman that will do anything for us meaning cook, clean, sex us up however we want it and bathe us. And our stupid assess mess it up for a dumb ass chick that don’t have nothing but ass. Dumb ass gives you more drama than a little bit always begging and looking for reasons to bitch. When we got a woman at home that will love your shit stains (If You All Have Them You Keyword), but we choose the foolishness, I don’t get it. Women I am going to let you in on something and you can agree or disagree. I think most men do things like this because sometimes we are insecure with ourselves or we feel that this is too good to be true and can’t afford to be hurt so we look for comfort on all levels. This mean good and bad on all levels. I am not going to speak about anyone because I don’t know BUT A LOT OF PEOPLE DON’T KNOW HOW TO LOVE. One might never been loved to experience love so they don’t know how to love. They have been hoes all their lives so running into a Queen is something that can’t be handled.

But what puzzles me more is why you women stay and put up with the shit? Is it that you are going to change them and make them love you, give them thirty chances until you figure out he don’t love you, or you get pregnant and then blame him when you know you should have left and you knew he was screwing everyone and you did not use protection.

We as people have really lost our connection with love because of our past and the events that took place in our lives that have scorned us. We have not let go of the past but we keep bringing people in our present when we have not learned who we are and what we want first.

I just think that if someone man or woman is not treating you the best and you feel something is lacking talk about it first and if talk doesn’t work give yourself options stay and deal with the shit or leave. There are a lot of people out here looking for love and if one is not providing it stand still and let something new blow in. Don’t fuc- everyone you meet there is no love behind lust. Learn the mind then the body this is something a lot of us are still trying to figure out.

There will be a part two I have lots more to say but hell some of you will not get past the first sentence because you don’t think it affects you. But it is cool we will see you hanging off a bridge wondering what happened.

The next blog will give tips on keeping yours near. I don’t have all the answers because my shit is messed up but trust me I have learned a lot over the years and want to share. I also am going to complete the love topic because there is much more. Cheating, screwing, abuse, Married people etc.. I have a lot more.

If you have a comment and don’t want people to see your profile I will post it in the next blog without your name and profile info.. I know some people have really been hurt and need this. Just remember we are all Gods and Goddesses and should be treated like one accept nothing less than the best for you in your life.

KEEP THE BLOGS MOVING PASS THIS INFORMATION TO EVERYONE. We send out jokes and other shit but we never send things that affect our lives.

Thanks and may God bless everyone that reads this blog to be a better person inside and out. Much love!

Patrick C