Understanding Relationships

Hello FAM sitting up late and thinking and thought I would drop a new blog to peak your interest.

Understanding Relationships came to mind and I sat and thought hard about this topic. Man this gut wrenching and wanted to make sure every woman felt this blog. I am going to give you some information that you can use or leave it is up to you.

First let me say this is not for the weak at heart and people who might take offense to the word of GOD. Being said that, I have cleared myself so let’s talk.

I think the biggest issue we have today in society is scarred women. Women who have been through things and have not gotten over their pain from past relationships and carry it over. I feel your pain and know it must really hurt to love someone and they tip out on you. I am going to say these few things and you might agree or not. A lot of men cheat because that has been the makeup of men over thousands of years, it has been in bloodlines. King Solomon is our prime example. Men were built to have multiple wives; the world did not get populated by only two people it takes months for a child to develop and there was a lot going on in those times. We as people are very sexual “Jesus knew that our psychological and sexual make up are such that it is impossible for the majority of us to go through life without a mate. The two strongest instincts that lie within humans are the desire to survive and a desire to express our sexuality. God gave us marriage as a legitimate means to express our sexual desires. God made us the way we are and there is no shame in marriage.” We don't respect the word back in the older days when it was ok to marry as many wives as you could deal with. The laws changed and we were only made to have one. I am not justifying that is right to cheat I am saying that it is the blood. Reading deeper I found that in

Matthew 19:9-12

It tells you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry." Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it." (NIV) Keep those points in your head everyone is not going to be married some will follow there own rules and go there separate ways in life.

I think the very reason a lot of women are not married because they give too much up too quickly, no pace in the relationship, no time to be friends, no time to learn your partner and some women give up as soon as they start. Once you put a title meaning I am your man and you are my woman I think things begin to move downhill. That word commitment scares a lot of people I like this definition "the official act of consigning a person to confinement (as in a prison or mental hospital)" that is what commitment is. We feel trapped no room to move forward or backwards. In other words we are afraid of being locked down. I know a lot of women are saying well don't get into it but trust me you have got into it and try to find your way out or wonder what the hell have I gotten myself in.. SOME SHIT! So it is easy to get in but hard to get out especially when sex is involved because that can keep a relationship going. That is not healthy or meaningful but we all have done it once or twice. The next reason I think we cheat is because women tend not to be help mates. We don't have common goals anymore; we are just dating out of control there is no point to dating some people they have nothing to offer no goals, no dreams, nothing. We as people can't honor everyone that comes into our lives.
"Honor does have its limits. When we decide to honor another it is not granting them absolution from all their faults. It is a commitment to honor them in spite of their faults. There is only so far we can go to honor someone. God honors us but there is nothing in his Word that encourages us to live self-destructive lifestyles. When we choose to honor someone we can't honor the person to the point of dishonoring God."

How many people really understand what that is saying and follow that, some of us will go to hell and back with a nothing ass person and then wonder why our lives are so messed up. You lost focus and understanding for yourself and you lost love for who you were. Make sure you love yourself more than you ever love anyone else or you will always fall for things that have no value in life. Once you take that stand there is no one or nothing that can stand in your way.

I could go on and on but I am going to leave you with one more thing and this is the most important thing so if you have read through this entire blog you will truly be blessed. I heard my co-workers talking about if you marry someone make sure you know they are going to change; they will not always look like this. Whew man this blew my mind inside I was saying shit if I like how you look now and you gain 500 pounds my ass is not going to like you like I did. I understand we change body structure and so on. I can dig that but it is a difference between picking up a little weight and eating the entire house up. Don't work out, don't cook at home, eat snacks at work all day what do you expect to happen to you? Women and Men take care of your body work out and eat right. This is the main reason people break up and are not together anymore. Sometimes when you get that person you tend to get too comfortable and don't feel the need to take care of yourself like before.

Ooohhh one more point and I hate this one with a passion WOMEN DON'T START SOMETHING AND THEN STOP IT! If your man came over and you were dressed up and all sexy for him and teased him and made him feel all warm inside don't stop doing it that pisses the hell out of men. We don't want to come over your house and you in those big ass shirts, jogging pants, scarves, rollers, big ass panties. Hell you were sexy when you got us so keep it coming. Don't get mad and cut us off from what made us fall in love with you in the first place. When we go out we like to show our woman off so we want sexy. We like it when people look and say damn but your ass come out of the house with Army Fatigues, but when you go out with your girls your ass look like you trying to catch a new man. Give us what we want and more than some ass, play with our minds, make love to our souls and trust me you will have true relationship and always remember a couple that Prays Together Stays Together. God will not let you mess with some trash. Some people have purposes in your life to teach lessons but are not meant to be there for a lifetime; know when to let go and move on to the next calling.

Patrick C