“Why We Do What We Do”

Hello Fam,

I am back! I have been under the weather a little but I am feeling a lot better. I am going to touch on a familiar subject “Why We Do What We Do.”

I sat and thought about a couple of things and talked to people in various cities and almost everyone is singing the same song. Where are the good genuine people? I must answer the question with: “Hell you tell me!” I am going to give you my thoughts on this subject.

The most important element of any relationship is trust. Trust is very tricky. The definition of it is 1 a: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something b: one in which confidence is placed. I don’t think people trust in anyone anymore and I believe a lot of relationships go sour because of this one simple element. Why is it that a person will ask you a question and you give them an honest answer and they still go behind your back to dig into your things to verify? Is it A: They don’t believe you and can’t trust you, B: You’ve done something in the past and it has them feeling paranoid or C: They can’t stand to hear the truth and would rather settle for a lie. My answer is C. I think most people don’t want to hear the truth. People can’t accept the truth because it’s too hard to deal with. Most men and women always say, “tell me the truth I can deal with it!” and most men and women are a lie. They can’t deal with it they dig and dig and look for something to dispute you and once they find something they waste no time throwing it in your face and it causes the other party to shut down and not ever tell the truth again.

I know most of my readers are going to say, “well if you were not doing anything in the first place you wouldn’t be in that position,” and I must agree, this is true. But everyone that is put on this earth is a human being first and falls into temptation and goes through things that others might not agree with. I blogged about men having certain things in their blood and several people didn’t agree, but if you have never experienced it then how would you know? If you’ve never walked in someone else’s shoes, how do you know their struggles in life? It’s our perception that everyone we date or deal with is perfect and a real person can’t ever be that. We as human beings have faults that have to be dealt with on a daily basis. I truly believe that most people who bitch and moan about things are the ones that are truly messing off or not giving their all to secure their position in a person’s heart. So the question posed is this: Why do we get into relationships and expect them to move like no problems will occur and once a problem does arise we get discouraged and want to break everything off? Why can’t we be friends before we become lovers so that we can understand the other person’s habits and truly make sure that this is what we want? Why can’t we love and know that love sometimes hurts but also know that there are limits to the hurt and we must recognize it? There is a difference in being in love and having a person’s back and being a fool and getting run over. We decide what is best for ourselves!

Men we are not exempt from anything. We are the main cause for women doing the things that they do. We go around acting like we’re GOD and can’t make any mistakes and once we do, we always want forgiveness, we praise the hell out of our women and always expect them to forgive, forget and just move on. STOP! Women hurt too. They have feelings and they deal with a whole lot of shit. There is a big difference between being having our backs and allowing our stupid Asses to run over them. I am not the exemption, either, I have made my share of mistakes but with those mistakes comes the responsibility to try to do better and be a man and not a child. Your woman is your not babysitter! If you want your woman to be your backbone then treat her like she is everything to you and if anyone or anything comes between you then dealt with it like grown folks. Learn to be honest and don’t put yourself in situations that will compromise that relationship. Be genuine. I believe there a lot of real men out here, we’re just struggling to find the ONE. Everything has elements: trust, love, loyalty and sex of course, (lol!) they are all important. Learn how to love and be real with yourself and I promise that everything that you set out to do will be fruitful.

I am going to end this now and I know I am going to have millions of comments please bring them on. You can also chat about it in the chat room today. I will be at the link below:
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Thanks and I hope everyone has a wonderful holiday. Be blessed and be careful.

Patrick Covington
The Great Thinker

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