Have you ever been in a relationship and everything is going perfect no complaints, no misunderstandings, and mad love? Then things turn and not in your favor. The time spent lessens and I love you become fewer and fewer. The little things once mad you feel like this was the one that completed your heart are now hurting your heart. When family and friends become more important than a nice quiet dinner for two. We have all experienced it and have been hurt by it.
You begin to question yourself and your abilities to love and keep that someone close. You start blaming yourself for little things and try to see how to fix the situation. You try harder but to only find yourself more frustrated and being pushed away even further. Then you ask yourself what I have done wrong. You love like no other has loved in your eyes. You wonder are they seeing someone else, have they lost interest or is life beating them up and you just caught between enemy lines.
You search for answers and you find out more and more that they don’t want to talk and the timing is not right. You scramble to gain control on your feelings and heart because you been down this path before and you are trying to avoid the hurt and pain that comes with this. You can’t just walk away because the human mind and soul wants an answer to what has gone wrong. Then you notice they are cutting you deeper and deeper words of encouragement become words on negative stabs to your heart. Like any human with a heart knows you automatically go into defensive mode.
This mode protects the last little bit you have before the brink of the breakdown. All your hopes and aspirations are being destroyed and you become angry and confused. You feel like you at least deserve an answer to what went wrong and how to correct it.
So I ask you this question before you move any further. Did you have a clear understanding what you were before you began your journey. Were you just a F-buddy, a sideline person until the other person got their things in order, just a nice person that cared and hang with, where you ever public acknowledge as theirs? I believe if you don’t have an understanding of what you are and who you are there is going to be an issue.
People are not looking for love anymore they are looking for a temporary place to lay their head and when they find a more comfortable place FOR THEM they move on. You are left cleaning us the mess of the houseguest. Love hurts and can damage a good person but just like anything else in life you have to keep your head up and trust Almighty is going to handle them on the down the road. Do all you can do to be the best you can be and the rest will be handled. If a person can’t love and respect you with all their heart and soul they were not for you in the beginning. You just caught up in the hope that you might have found the person that makes your soul warm in the inside.
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Twin, this is all so true, so accurate, and soooooo freakin' on point! This information is vital and I think it mainly happens to girls or guys who are in a situation where there's a baby involved. One of the ppl in the relationship still have feelings for the person that helped them make the baby. As a woman, you have to stand strong and learn to trust your man if it's worth saving the relationship and if you really feel that he's trustworthy. In a man's standpoint, a woman always knows what's best whether she wants to admit or not. So, if you're a good man, hold on she'll wake up and realize it.
Great job on this one Pat!
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