Finding A Good Mate

Patrick Covington is asking why do ppl always say it is hard to find a good man or woman here? What are some of the issues you run into? Hope everyone comments on this and peep out the other questions!

Tominique Sherrel at 2:51pm May 26
I run into guys that put on acts to get what they want from me. They tell you everything that you want to hear and claim they're a good guy but their actions prove differently. Too many guys are concerned with seeing how many women they can sleep with rather than finding that one special woman to settle down with


Shonda Sargent at 2:58pm May 26 via Facebook Mobile
I would have to agree with Tominque


Brandy Greene at 2:58pm May 26
Its really is hard to find a good man here, I think there are alot of good women out here, but you have to look at statistics, in Memphis the ratio of women to men if 52% to 48%, there is more women out here for the men than it is for the pool of men there is for us. Memphis always has had a stereotype of a "pimpin" mentality. Men who are unstable... Read Moreand not ready to grow up, alot of them are still trying to live the fast life and aren't thinking about having a significant other. Most women and some men set standards that are too high, there is nothing wrong with that but if you are looking for a trophy man/woman, with good credit, no kids, own their own home, independent, and soforth, you can't have your cake and eat it too, nobody is perfect. You can't get a Halle or a Boris everytime you go out searching for a man or a woman. Men are afraid of commitment and so are some women. There are some good men and women out here, sometimes you have to look where you least expect it.


Brandy Greene at 3:04pm May 26
I do agree that it is all about how many women that guys can sleep with...thats that "PIMPIN" I was referring to...


Tominique Sherrel at 3:05pm May 26
Yea I agree Brandy.People set standards and try to find someone who meets all of them rather than most of them. I have been known to have high standards myself but I'm not going to turn a guy away just because he doesn't meet all of them.If he's a good guy and shows that he is interested in a committed relationship then I will give it a shot


Carmen Renee at 3:09pm May 26
NO ONE WANTS TO BE HONEST ANY MORE


Frederick Westbrooks at 3:20pm May 26
C'mon men the ladies are ruling on us speak up fellows this is your to let the ladies know what's good


Darius Knox at 3:33pm May 26 via Facebook Mobile
I meet great girls all the time


Dedra Monique Ford at 3:39pm May 26 via Facebook Mobile
People says its hard to find that right person cause of the people we tend to meet or interact with on a daily basis. I guess they won't be so hard to find if we look in the right places.we nt gonna find them in the same place(as being immature,fake,selfish, basically wat experiences u r used to getting frm past bf/gf)so we cnt look in da sme spot and expect something different.If our minds are fixated on the idea that good men/women are hard to find,what shal we expect??? I don't honestly think its so hard like peopke say cause there are good men/women out here.Just have to be patient and knowwhat you want out of a man/woman.don't settle for less.And we must stay focus and be ourselves.(nt try to portray something different) cause you want someone that likes you for you.If you constantly say good men are hard to find, then they will be.Get out and meet other people. There are good men/women out there.


Nikia West at 3:50pm May 26 via Facebook Mobile
Women don't set standards and once they fall in love they think the man is going to all of a sudden get some respect for them. If I've done what I wanted and got what I wanted there's no need for me to change. And men don't want to take the time that's needed to learn a woman just because I'm strong doesn't mean I have no need for you it just means I won't let u get over on me.


Vicskeyas Faith Moore at 4:25pm May 26 via Facebook Mobile
I think it is about the standards we, male and female, set for ourselves. As for me, I think I have blocked good guys because of who I have allowed to be in my life. In my past, if a good man came along, I would find some way to push them away. . . now. . . I try to give a man a chance.